Quittintime: Invitation: Your BT/Tavern questions answered

You are more than welcome to use this forum.
I have wondered why no communication between the administration and those banned and also to the board in general re. change of policy.

And this from Piffin, posted in the photo gallery move thread.

From: Piffin Dec-1 8:40 pm
To: FHB_WEB unread (120 of 138)

113243.120 in reply to 113243.117

JPV,
Believe it or not, there are a bunch of guys and gals who would like to work WITH you to save Breaktime and all the good it means for Taunton and for us.

but to work WITH somebody takes communications. Both ways.

I'm working on a theory that maybe you are stuck in a place where you can't figure out how to deal with things as they have gotten to be. Things just got out of hand and you don't know what to do now.

Let me tell you a story.

This goes way back in time to when all the bicycles were Schwinns and had fat tires, the girls wore bobby socks and saddle shoes, plaid skirts and sweaters, and NO body wore a damn baseball cap inside the building.

I was maybe 8-10 years old, can't remember that detail for sure, maybe even 12YO, but I was riding my bicycle along and managed to fall and break my eyeglasses.

No big deal, right? Well, no, not really. Except that I had taken them off my face and put them in my breast pocket.
Dad had told me to wear them
and to take care of them 'cause they were expensive.
I was really trying - I mean I thought they would be safer there than on my face for fooling around and doing active type stuff.
but I had disobeyed HIM!
He was a pretty good Dad in a lot of ways. Taught me all kinds of things and showed me how to learn more by reading and researching stuff.
But dang it all, he was hard as nails when he was disobeyed!
or when it cost him money.

So I was afraid to tell him that I had broken my glasses.
So I put it off for a day
He'll be in a better mood tomorrow

Then I just couldn't get myself to say anything
I'll just go read in my room tonight instead of watching TV and avoid telling him TONIGHT. That'll give me time to figure out how to tell him TOMORROW.

somehow I managed to get myself worked up in a ball of nerves until I had a hard knot in my stomach that got worse and worse each day I put it off. I'd had this silly accident on a wednesday, and it took me eight whole days to work up the nerve...getting sicker and dreading it more all the time.

And I couldn't see for sh!t either! I was getting a headache.

Finally I marched right in and told him, "Dad, I have something to tell you,
"I fell off my bike and broke my glasses"

"Well son, they were a year or two old and getting too small for you anyways, so it's about time for a new pair. Did you get hurt? How's the bike?"

Whew, what a RELIEF! I fessed up and got it out in the open. Man oh man that felt GOOD!!!

JP, I think you are a pretty decent guy and just overwhelmed with this darn forum, stuck by management with moderating it according to the marching orders from the top Lords Of Tauntonville. The ones who get to wear the gold braid on their caps and shoulder epaulets.

I'm also guessing that you are a techno-geek. You have some great skills with programing and working the software. You enjoy that, and the serenity of the cold logic there.
That's good! I don't use the work Geek as any kind of insult, just an observation of what seems to be.
But you don't feel quite so comfortable with 'folks'
They are less predictable. You can fix a runaway loop in the software but when it comes to a similar 'bug' in the forum, you are perplexed so you alternately ignore it or try the cntrl/alt/delete or sometimes the crtl/escape.

But you wanna know what fixes about 9/10s of all the problems PCs have?

You already know, don't you?

A simple restart.

Something like, "Hi, I am JPV, and I want to make this place hum right again. what can I do to get you all on board with me?"

Then listen before punching too many keys. Interact

Maybe even admit things that you've done that were less than pleasing to your own self. Lord Knows I have done the same - been a bad boy here and admitted that I had a part in letting things get too tense and out of hand.
No need to try to play a position - that takes far too much energy.

Just be you. Not what you think "they" want you to be. That clearly isn't working.
I'll help.
Lots of us will
Whaddya tink?

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