A good, well reasoned post, SP, with constructive ideas. It's apparent you have been through this before.
It's been obvious to me for some time that some one up high has a personal agenda with the community at BT, due to the disparate treatment afforded to BT vs CT. It seems to be a person with a very narrow mind who wants to tell us adults how to think, what to say, and what to believe. They purport to confine the language not to just that which would be admissable on a family forum, but attempt to ban the use of commonly used words that are hot buttons to them All of this with no explanations whatsoever, as if we were all small children.
It is this utter unfairness that galls so much, and makes it difficult for many who want to go back to make gestures of reconciliation.
I agree with many of the proposals you put forth in your post, but a real solution will involve both sides placing their cards on the table.